Sunday, October 7, 2007

A Little More on the Previous Post

After reading my post about the friendship with MBA Man, one might wonder why I did not tell him immediately after he came out to me and why I did not suspect he was gay all along.

Why I didn’t tell him:

I was someone he told very early on in his coming out process. He had not been open at school and was only telling people on a “need to know” basis. Later, I was told that I was the first person he told just because he wanted to, not because he felt it was a must. I also knew it was rough, and even if I had been ready to spill the beans, it was my time to be a supportive friend—not the one in need of support myself.

Why I didn’t know:

At that time, and frankly to this day, I have not had many gay friends. Thus, my “gaydar” is not particularly acute.

In retrospect there were a few clues:

-He never talked about girls, and was not dating as far as anyone knew—I later learned he had in fact had a boyfriend he hid very well from everyone.

-He once offered to take me shopping and pick out an outfit for me. What straight guy does that??

-He gave me a ride home for break once, and if I recall correctly the music on that drive included Britney Spears and Hilary Duff. Not a dead give away, but also not general straight guy listening fare.

4 comments:

eliot said...

You aren't the only one with gaydar issues...Looking forward to reading more. Take it easy.

Cody said...

Good God, I wish my gaydar was waaaay more finely tuned. Its funny, the people that do know I'm gay always ask me, "Hey, is that guy gay?" I usually answer, "I have no idea, but he's cute so could you go ask him for me?"

Pete said...

There's always something you pick up on, a walk, clothing, attributes, the way he holds his cigarette. And, of course, music. The iPod never lies, LOL.

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