Happy Halloween--Updates

I've been in a bit of a blogging funk lately...just not much to say. But, the last couple of weeks have been pretty active in terms of my social life. I know..."B has a social life?"

More Coming Out:
Went to a going away happy hour for someone I worked with in student leadership for several years on the state level who resigned from his staff position. It turned into a long night that included my coming out to him, another staff member and a couple of alumni. The other staff person was actually on student gov't with me at my school and said she figured it all along. I'm finding it tends to slip when I have been drinking and start to vent about the various frustrations in my life.

Evening Out:
Went to the birthday dinner for the student worker in my former office Saturday night. Afterwords, I went and had coffee with one of the guys I have been chatting with online---I joined a couple of websites in an attempt to meet some guys in my area. He was a nice guy and I think there might be a possible friendship there.

Lunch:
Had lunch yesterday with another guy I have been communicating with over the same website. He too, was a nice, genuine guy and we had decent conversation. He did say he was open to hanging out again and I hope we can. I think the ball is in my court. Seemed like he was into being friends, and mentioned wanting to meet some of my friends, which I guess is a positive sign.

The "Date" Debate:
There has been some back and forth among other friends and I about whether meeting these guys constituted "first dates," particularly the meal with guy number two. I prefer to think of them as casual meetings of potential friends, since nothing more than a friendship is asked or expected. None of the parties involved are looking on this website expecting to find a romantic connection.

Readers: What do you think? Am I dating?

A Conversation With Bi Boy

Last night I was up quite late on AIM, and was surprised to get a message from Bi Boy. It's been some time since I heard from him.

He procceded to tell me that he'd been out last week with someone I'd know. Of course I wondered who. He tells me the guy's name and after a second I realized he was talking about MBA Man's ex...the guy he dated before the LTR with Photo Guy. He asked what I knew about this guy, which really isn't much since I never actually met him...but I'm sure during the course of their conversation somehow the connection was made.

So, the world gets smaller. But the conversation got more interesting when he asked about my love life. I was starting to get the sense from the conversation that he might know something about me--somehow I doubt he'd have told a straight guy friend about picking up boys and "getting [his] whore on."

Then, this:

BB: hey did you and [Apple Guy]ever
BB:?
Me: ever what?
BB: that is what i am asking
Me: No...however you must know more about me than I think to have wondered about that
BB:lol
BB:you never know
Me:You can say it, I'll tell you the truth
Me: or ask it, I guess
BB: what if you say that you and [Apple Guy] did nothing i take that
BB: but i know you wanted him
BB: BAD
Me:I did not
BB:right
Me:Right....YOU wanted [Apple Guy]
BB:yes and no

Me:I will say that your radar is good....because I am
BB:you say it like i did not know
Me:how did you know? [Daisy Duke] tell you?
BB:no
BB:i just know

Anyway, it was an interesting and surprising conversation. To learn that not only is he dating one of my friends exes, but he knew about me all along...and I'm far from "obvious", so the boy's gaydar must be finely tuned.

Indeed an interesting chat to have online at 2 am.

An Example of Why I Swore Off AIM Chats

When I started this blog a few weeks back, I saw it as a fresh start. I left behind my old screen name as well, at least the one I had used in the AIM chats. From that point on I decided I would only talk to people I met through this blog and a few select others I chose to transfer over.

One of those transfers was someone I’ll call AIM Boy. My guess is we’ve been chatting about a year. He’s a local kid who like me, is very much in the closet. He has seemed like a nice guy and we’ve had a good mix of real conversation and “cyber fun”…if you get my drift.

One night last week, we were chatting and he told me he kinda liked me and thought I might be fun to hang out with. I’m not really looking for more at this point and it would not go further because:

1) We’re both in the closet
2) Neither is in a place for a relationship
3) The biggest one: he’s on the young side (18) and won’t be staying here—I may not be here beyond this year either depending on grad school


I'm apprehensive about meeting up with people from online. I've never done it. Regardless, I said maybe someday that would be ok, but he questioned that I was ever going to agree to meet him because of what he called my “paranoia” about anyone finding out I’m gay. To help prove I’m not paranoid, I let him see my Facebook—real name, pictures, email, phone numbers, the works.

Mistake. By the next morning he’d de-friended me and while he didn’t block me on AIM, has not responded to my “hellos” since. Obviously he saw something he disliked and instead of being a man and asking me about it, he’s simply cut off communication.

Rude, rather hurtful and a reminder that I made the right choice to ditch the AIM chat rooms.

The Winner is...

First off, thanks to those who voted in my weatherman survey. It appears my weatherman won. A couple of you brought up some things:

-Yes, he's WAY TOO TAN

-He is 26, although he does look about 12

Another blurb about him is here...thanks to Steve and Warren for the link.

Moving on...

I will be making some additions to the blogroll in the next day or so. Please check them out.

I appreciate all the emails and comments from new and returning readers, and have been fortunate to interact with many out there on AIM as well. Keep it coming, folks.

You'll notice the frequency of posts here may begin to slow a tad now...from the frenetic pace of a new blog to a more regular rhythm.

Is My Weatherman Hotter Than Your Weatherman?

The other night I was on Facebook and noticed that a girl I know had joined “Absolut Sven” a fan group dedicated to a Minnesota TV personality. I decided I had to give her some major grief.

Why? Because as anyone who lives within the viewing area probably knows, Sven is the weekend weatherman for the Minneapolis NBC station. He has a good on-air persona, is a local boy, educated in our state university system and seems generally good at his job. He’s also young, athletic, and not bad looking—albeit about four feet tall and fake-baked beyond need, not unlike said station’s former anchor. Women love him, and they play up his sex appeal…including showing shirtless photographs of him running marathons during newscasts. One problem for the ladies, though--although it has never been expressly said , he likes gentlemen.

So, when I saw that this gal, the same one who had accused me and Apple Guy of “dating” apparently had the hots for this guy, I knew it was time to give her a little crap in return.

Upon looking around Facebook I discovered there were lots of groups dedicated to this guy. He’s being called everything from a “Weather God” to a “hobbit” and there’s even a group of people who claim he ran away from them at a local gay bar—apparently he enjoys hooking up with guys from the bar, but he must be a player with high standards.

Anyway, I think it is another funny example of women swooning over unattainable (GAY) men.

By the way, he blogs and there are plenty of pictures.

Survey: is my weatherman hotter than your weatherman?